Winter Baby No More!

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Puzzled! Yes, that’s how I feel lately…you see, Lil’ A was a winter baby. Born 5 weeks early on December 7, 2006. He was a hardcore winter baby meaning the cold weather never used to bother him! When we were in China, living in an apartment that doesn’t have a central heating system and winter time was pretty mean he would still be a-okay-wondering around inside with just a shirt while his Mommy bundled up with thick sweater and socks.

Well not anymore! Lately he will tell me he’s cold even just riding in a car with the Air Con fully blasting.

Could it be he had adjusted to the icky-hot-humid-weather of Indonesia that drives his Mommy nuts? Btw, this boy never have heat rashes even with all his running around half naked around his Oma’s house. Occasionally he’ll have diaper pull-ups rash on his tiny bums but no heat rashes like his Mommy always suffer. Maybe he did adjusted, after-all, he’s always guzzled down more watered-down orange juice than anyone can ever imagine that’s why my family calls him a walking ‘jet-pump’ (what Indonesians calls a pumping water machine).

Where did my winter baby go…I have no idea but one thing for sure is Mommy will have to start carrying a sweater for him just for the rides in car/taxi.

Chasing Away Bad Dreams

Sweet Dreams, Little One

So last night while lying in bed with Lil’ A he said something that totally blew me away (oh and he have said a lot of things that blew me away lately!)

Mommy, A had a bad dream last night!” this coming from my 3 years old mouth and it stunned me not only that he said it in a full sentence but then he was able to describe the dream “A was in a train and the train sinking, Mommy”.

Okay, maybe he had watched too many Polar Express and yes, he is train-crazed but had moved on from Thomas to just everyday trains (and planes!) and there was a scene where the train almost sinks in a frozen lake.

This is the first time he had describe a dream and I am taken by it.

My only answer to him was “It’s okay, pumpkin…bad dreams are not real they are just stories of your sleep, sometimes you will get  good dreams, sometimes you will have bad dreams.” As I can’t think of any better answer then I pulled him into my arms holding him and planted a kiss (or two!) while he nestled his curly head on my collar bone.

Aaah….if only Mommy can protect you in your dreams too.

I ♥ Faces – Smiles Photo Challange

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This is my younger narcissistic brother who love to be in just about every pictures I took. :D

Join the fun at I ♥ Faces, folks and you’ll be all smiles too!

6 Silly Questions You’ll Face When You’re in A Mix Marriage

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Indonesians in general are very friendly people. However our friendliness usually comes with small talks and boy, do we love them! Here are the common things people in Indonesia will ask you once they, either see you have a mix children or downright see your foreign husband:

  • Is this your son?Uhm, no the hospital just handed him out to us to raise!
  • Where is your husband is from?Still planet earth!
  • What does he do?Yes, they like to know!
  • Usually the above question will be followed by the “Ah, how wonderful! He must be rich!” — Uhm, we don’t have a money tree growing in the backyard!
  • How did you meet your husband?Wish he come from a catalog then I can do a return ;)
  • Why don’t you have more kids, maybe you’ll be lucky to have a girl!If you want to take my place staying in bed for a month (at least)!

There are of course many variations to the above ‘questions’ but you’ll eventually get used to them although it can be annoying sometimes. Don’t even try to start bargaining with your foreign husband around!

Jammin’ Wiggles Way

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Lil’ A has been into The Wiggles song for some times now and it’s never gets old but this time lets just say he put a different twist to it.

Mommy needs to brush up on her taking picture skills to follow the rocker’s movements! His beloved-at-the-moment-favorite-musical instrument is that red guitar and at the moment he have enough instrument to have his own band!

Enjoy your weekend, everyone! :D

Kartini Today, Are Those Shackles Off?

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A little history lesson from Indonesia, Kartini or also known as Raden Ajeng Kartini, was a prominent Javanese and an Indonesian national heroine. Kartini is known as a pioneer in the area of women’s rights for native Indonesians. For her roles in women’s rights Indonesian government declared April 21st as Kartini Day in 1964.

In many ways she was a woman before her times. She wanted women to have the freedom to learn and study. Kartini’s concerns were not just in the area of the emancipation of women, but also the problems of her society. Kartini saw that the struggle for women to obtain their freedom, autonomy and legal equality was just part of a wider movement. She detests polygamy and the use of religion to justify it. When I was in school we were taught about her and her heroism but honestly I never heard about her religious objections until today from Wikipedia. She wrote “Religion must guard us against committing sins, but more often, sins are committed in the name of religion” WOW powerful isn’t?! I have found new respect for this woman! She did ‘fell’ for this polygamy practice by following her parents’ wishes to become someone’s third wife. Even more sadly is her ambitions were unrealized as a result of her premature death in 1904 at the age of 25.

Inspired by Kartini’s example, the Van Deventer family established the Kartini Foundation which built schools for women, ‘Kartini’s Schools’ in Semarang in 1912, followed by other women’s schools in Surabaya, Yogyakarta, Malang, Madiun, Cirebon and other areas. Letters to her Dutch friends then later published into a book titled Door Duisternis tot Licht (Out of Dark Comes Light) in 1911.

Indonesian women surely has come a long way from Kartini’s era but have we really break those shackles completely off? I can hear some feminist shouts in the background “Hell, yeah!” To be brutally honest, I don’t think we’re all there yet…Polygamy still exists to this very day in Indonesia. Kartini would surely have a heart attack with some of the religious fatwa issued by the clerics towards women here. Then there’s that price tag plans for Indonesian women who wish to marry a foreign men. So are we Indonesian has really been liberated? Some has successfully done so but there are still plenty who’s under the radar, whose lives aren’t so lucky.

Sexual discrimination, harassment and abuse remain prevalent in what is still largely a male dominated society and corporate ethos. The chaotic living conditions in cities like Jakarta are also posing challenges to women as they are challenged with managing the stresses of work and home (I think all working mothers face this!). Women workers and managers are also constantly getting boxed in by stereotyping and a limiting of roles. For example, it is relatively common to find women in functions like human resources or finance but seldom in production or engineering although I have known some women engineers and high ranking positions in prominent companies but mostly these women are working for foreign company where they are being judge by their skills, roles and expertise not by their gender. Sadly, most state own or local companies still have a hard time in letting women be in charge or hold a key position.

Simple example…job ads here are mostly discriminating. Don’t believe me? See this ad and see for yourself:

Understandably, sales support will deal with a wide variety of people, they represent the company but for me what’s inside the brain of that pretty face that’s more important then having a look of a super model! In my dream, ideally these job ads will concentrate more on skills and qualifications. More modern companies and sadly (yes I use this word too much!) it is usually foreign company who have dropped the use of these terms of ‘attractive appearance & age’ factor as their most important requirements.

This is why I salute those modern day Kartini warriors’ women who still fights for equality in life also in religion. Kudos to you, ladies!

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