A Wedding And A Quest For The Perfect Dress

So I am going to a wedding next month.

It’s my cousin’s wedding out of town in Kupang. He’s my late aunt’s eldest and will be the first to get marry from her three children.

My mother had asked me to fly there with my other aunt and my uncle.

Followed by that was whirlwind of wedding prep craziness.

You see, for us Indonesians, weddings are huge. Literally! Granted, it will be big for everyone since it’s a lifetime of commitment bla bla bla. Let’s not go there, let’s stay within the wedding ceremony and reception.

My late Aunt and her husband was and still are one of the most respected pastors in Kupang. Her husband, my uncle, is the head of the churches organization for the whole island. With such status it is to be expected that the wedding of their son to be big with invitations as many as 600 invitations. Formally, one invitation is equal for two right? So roughly we’re talking about 1,200 guests here! *Faints and opted for a quicky Vegas chapel wedding*

Ok, you guys still breathing?

When my aunt told me about the size of this wedding I nearly rolled my eyes and willing to bet that there will be more than 1,200 people showing up at the venue.

The Dress Drama

The most common thing to do would be for all women from brides and the grooms families to dress in traditional dresses of Kebaya. I knew this. Yet, when my mother said “Ok, we’re going shopping for the fabrics this Saturday.” I felt suffocated!

Don’t get me wrong, Kebaya is really really pretty looking and I am so darn proud of them. But to get into one? Laces, heavy beads and sequins on the laces, plus a bustier? I.really.am.suffocating way before the tightness of the Kebaya wrap me up.

Can’t I just modified mine to be a mini dress or something?” I pleaded to my aunt. Hey, at least my legs would be breathing!

Are you crazy? The wedding is not in Jakarta! It will be in a small town.” She laughed and there goes my hopes of wearing a cute little mini dress of Kebaya.

I was actually thinking of something like this:

                                                               Source: google.co.id via Helentina on Pinterest

 

Saturday came and my aunt came armed with my two college fresh year teenage cousins. Off we went to the famous market of Tanah Abang to start fabric shopping.

The first shop we stopped by had this really pretty looking lacey Kebaya of black with intricate red tiny glittery things making the pattern very modern and young. It was glamorous and just gorgeous. One of my teenage cousin is the sister of the Groom. Normally she would be expected to wear something formal but one glance at her, I knew she would rather go all out hajaruku style than suffering wearing those pretty girly girl Kebaya.

Sure enough after going from one store to the hundreds more…she just couldn’t find one that she liked. She wanted to wear black!

After a tiring day – my mom and my aunt had successfully bagged God only knows how many fabrics and ready to wear Kebaya sets for the families to wear. I seriously had lost count!

With only 30 minutes before the shops are bounds to be closing down, I went back to the first shop we visited. I just had to give that black & red Kebaya a try. With my black polo shirt still on, the shop attendant strapped the tight bustier and pulled the straps tightly. The results? I looked amazing! – too bad in my excitement and between trying to figure out how to breath normally because boy, were they tight – I didn’t think of reaching into my purse and snap a picture or two. The Kebaya fit me like a second glove. My stomach had never looked so flat!

But then it dawned on me…

There is no way in the world I can go around taking pictures of the wedding wearing this tight bustier under albeit a very pretty Kebaya. I can’t even bent down for Pete’s sake! So, I half heartedly take them off.

My aunt had asked me to help out documenting the wedding using my camera so yeah, I think I’d go with something more comfortable instead.

Oh and against all odds, my little cousin had persuaded her aunts to let her got away with a black dress and after seeing her tormented face during the entire shopping day I sure can’t blamed her.

In the meantime…I’m still pretty much dress-less or Kebaya-less. Maybe I’ll just grab something simple on the last minutes.

 

A Gift That Keeps on Giving: 1 Bracelet – 1 Child – 1 Week of Food

Give Jewelry - Orange Cuff Bracelet

Now that Christmas has passed and life resume to normal, our kids maybe still busy playing/enjoying their Christmas presents. But did you know that there are kids who are not as fortunate as ours? I’m talking about the orphanage children here in Indonesia.

I stumble on Give Jewelry and my heart melts, instantly.

BRACELETS WITH PURPOSE

Give Jewelry is a sustainable movement to provide food for children in orphanages throughout Indonesia. The vision is simple: every bracelet purchased directly benefits kids in need. So no matter what type of bracelet you choose: friendship braceletscharm braceletleather braceletbeaded braceletcuff bracelets  or any of their other bracelets, you’re really choosing to make a difference.

Knowing by purchasing one bracelet you can actually provide a one whole meal for a child is a tremendous feeling. You are giving them a better life. You can watch their full length documentary of the visit to Sumba and Bali Orphanage on YouTube.

Some of the areas that Give Jewelry are working on – the Indonesian orphanage – is located in the dry land of Sumba. This speaks volume to me as my late aunt who passed away from breast cancer last June was a pastor in Kupang. Her husband, a native son of Kupang and her has been doing a lot of humanitarian works in these small places to help the people. So now can you connect the dots why I feel this ‘calling’ to support Give Jewelry?

ONE PIECE –> ONE CHILD –> ONE WEEK OF FOOD

Give Jewelry is selling truly beautiful affordable handmade pieces. Do check out their products. These bracelets are helping children in Indonesia not only to feed them but also for medical treatments like you can see on this moving documentary. With every bracelet you purchase, Give Jewelry provides one week of nutritious food (that’s 21 meals!) for a child in need.

Below are some simple steps you can take to raise awareness of hunger, encourage activism and create lasting change.  With your help, we CAN end world hunger, one child at a time!

Would you like to get involve and support this cause that has become very near and dear to my heart? It’s so easy:

For Tatter Scoops readers, Give Jewelry is giving you guys’ special discounts! Woot woot! Easy as pie, if you decided that this is a cause worth supporting, please do buy a bracelet (or two or more!) and upon check out in the Comment Box please use this code: Tatterscoops to receive a FREE Survivor Purple Cancer Awareness Bracelet or Pink Breast Cancer Awareness bracelet as their thank you gift.

What are you waiting for? Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and their bracelets would make a perfect gift for your daughter, mother, girlfriend, etc.

If you do support this, please do let me know by leaving a comment below. Also please watch this 5 minutes video.

Nickle Town On My Mind

Somewhere in the north-east of South Sulawesi province, there’s a small mining town named Soroako (also spelled Sorowako).

A small mining town where nickel was its main source of life to the people surrounds the area, including my father for a little over 13 years.

It’s one of the places that feel like home.

I was only 3 or 4 months old when my mother wrapped me up and moved from Makassar, the city where I was born and where most of my families resided.

I still vividly remember the small details my first house was. That light grey wooden house with those red leaves plants surrounding front of our house into the graveled driveway. The sounds of our running  feet against the wooden floor in the hallways. The huge backyard with mangoes trees, cassava trees, green thick Japanese grass where I did so many cartwheels and other crazy gymnastic stunts, a backyard patio where we would be playing if it’s too hot outside. Unfortunately I have no picture of the house but this is what it looks like just different color and yard:

Pic: From Kakabiroe

From the trees in my neighbors’ houses where I spent a lot of my childhood times climbing and became one of my hiding spot away from my angry mother. I wasn’t exactly a very good little girl growing up. A total tomboy, I hated wearing those puffy ballooned dresses with their laces that made me itch. My hair was cut short, like a boy.

That precious little yellow bicycle that I used to peddled hard up a hill just to get the thrill of riding it down the hill super fast.  Wasn’t exactly the sweet girl that played tea with her imaginary friends, outdoorsy, I would rather climbed trees, fights with the boys, and came home with bruises and scars on my legs.

For a town surrounded by three lakes, swimming pool was so not popular growing up. Kids would be thrown into the lakes, well OK maybe not literally! And I was one of those many kids of Soroako who learned to swim and yes, swallowed some of the water.

Yellow school bus like they had back in the States? Hello, we got them too! Unfortunately, if you are in the 4th grade and you happened to live nearby the school you can’t ride the yellow school bus no more. So , I remember the walks to and from school with my classmates who all lived not far from me. Mind you we wouldn’t be walking nicely by the side of the graveled road. We took short cuts, to and through someone’s houses and when someone shout we’d scram out little behinds off. A little adventure each and every day. Sometimes we would stop and picked up these fruits typical of the area, they are sour and honestly I can’t remember why we would even try suckling on it – I have never seen them anywhere since I left Soroako.

Buah Dengen

After school we often stopped by for a 10 cent frozen-square-looking-sweet- ice-tea popsicle on tooth picks that quench thirsty little heads.

Small town charm, everyone knows everyone because well, frankly everyone works for the same company.  Childhood freedom was there like no other place.

A little far from the main lake…there’s a smaller lake nearby from my house. The road was bad, it was empty mostly. Big tall grass prairie surrounded the area. We little children were scared out of our mind from the tales that there’s a ghost in one of the big tree there.  Some said there’s an unmarked Dutch soldier’s cemetery there. Looking back now, maybe it’s just to stop us kiddos from playing alone and get drown in the lake. Maybe. Can’t remember when exactly I dared myself to wonder there with my friends.

One of the distinct ‘tourists’ – and by tourists I meant the visiting relatives and families from out of town are the display of slag dump. Not sure what I’m talking about? Check out this picture:

Yeah, I remember my father borrowing company’s car, loaded up all of us and our guests to checked out the slag dump from a safe distance of course. It’s beautiful from a far at night time.

One more spot that to me felt like a hidden treasure was this small creek not far from my house. Tucked just right next to a quiet golf course, it was a pure small heaven. My friends or sometimes I would wondered there and just put our dirty little feet in the cold fresh running stream. Sadly, I don’t have pictures of it but the memories of relaxing under the shades of many tall trees there shall remain with me forever. Maybe it look like this, only smaller – it look similar but I’m not sure.

My family moved away when I got to 5th grade so I was around 11 years old yet the memories will last forever.  One of these days I need to come ‘home’ and captured the beauty of this small town through my lenses.

 Special thanks to Ricky Riyanto Lamberth for allowing me to post his amazing pictures here.

Indonesia On My Bucket List

Lately I’ve been having this itch to travel again, to explore…to soak up the beauty nature have to offer. It’s been awhile since I last travel so the itch is coming back full blown but this time I’m more interested in exploring more of Indonesia, considering my last trip was to Bangkok – which was super awesome.

With over 17,000 islands spreads across Indonesia, there are so many places that still holds its magical beauty untouched by commercial and greedy hands of developers trying to jack up the prices and pumped out as many dough as they can.

Here are some places that’s on my Bucket List to visit in Indonesia

  1. Ambon: Not only because I’m half Ambonese and never set foot in the island where my father’s family originally came from, but it’s the fact that I grew up hearing so many songs about beautiful beaches of Ambon and stories about the Moluccas island that makes Ambon holds a near and dear spot in my heart. Seriously, Ambon have some magnificent beaches calling my name such as the famous Natsepa Beach with its white sands.

    Image from here
  2. Wakatobi in Southeast Sulawesi: Now I don’t dive but looking at the underwater photos from this area makes me wish I can dive! You can enjoy the crystal clear water around the island, or go on dolphin watching expedition which sounds amazing. Wakatobi is situated at heart of coral triangle centers from what I read and these are protected marine areas. 
  3. Ujung Kulon: Located on the southwestern of Java island – literally on the tip of Java, this area is within close proximity to the Krakatoa volcano again with beautiful beach surrounding it and small islands to explore. It’s a protected National Park, proclaimed as a national heritage by UNESCO, I’ve been dying to go to this place. To get there from Jakarta will take a pretty long drive in a car and depends on traffic. From what I read, it varies between 6 to 10 hours but I bet the views are well worth it.  Fishing boats resting..
    Creative Commons License photo credit: Bambang Suryobroto
  4. Rote: Oh I’ve been dying with anticipation to visit this island in Nusa Tenggara Timur since last year. The trip was postponed due to the eruption of Mount Merapiand now it’s been rescheduled for early November 2011. Ever since I saw my mom’s friend’s photos from her trip there, I knew I MUST go too. Where the beaches are still very quiet…instead of loud tourists basking in the sun…you will see pig foot prints! Yeah, you read that right! Oh November can’t be here any sooner!

    Photo courtesy of Aunty Henny

  5. Tobelo: Situated in North Halmahera, part of the Maluku providence. Secluded with so many beautiful spots, I dream of exploring more of the Maluku island. The picture below is just what my city-fed-up soul yearns for.

    Photo Courtesy: Rahwidodo

  6. Raja Ampat: The area has been sky rocketing in tourism thanks to it’s vast publicity promotions and it really is a beautiful place. From what I’ve heard it’s a pricey US dollar tags tourist destination now – which is sad but I still wanna go there and climb up to see these views. One day I will get there!
  7. Kalianda: Located in South Lampung  – Sumatra this is one hidden gem that has became more famous in the recent years, also it’s close proximity to the Krakatoa volcanic mountain gives a dose of magical touch. It offers pretty good beach from the photos I’ve seen and since I never been to Sumatra, this place is on my list.

    Image courtesy of Andre PD

  8. Donggala: Somewhere in Central Sulawesi island there’s a really pristine beautiful place far from all the pollution of Jakarta. Tucked away with crystal clear water and white sand beach, I so plan to go there one day. Sulawesi does have some of the amazing beaches. In 2000, my family and I had a road trip to Manado and along the way we were surrounded by virgin beaches. So yes, Donggala, I will soak up your beauty soon.

    Image courtesy of Arya Sadhewa

  9. Komodo Island: To see the rare nearly extinct dragon like creature? Yes! That’d be uber coolness, don’t you think? Aside from the komodo dragons, the island alone is a beautiful place.

    Image courtesy of Unearthing Asia

  10. Tanjung Puting: Orangutans always have a soft spot in my heart and I would so love a trip down to see them at their natural environment in the deep jungle of Kalimantan. Will have to find out more about visiting this place but definitely on my list.

    Image courtesy of http://www.orangutan.org

Until then, I will keep on dreaming, keep on trying to save to afford these dream trips. There are too many beautiful wondrous places across Indonesia, I will end up with a long Bucket List for sure.

What’s on your destination Bucket List?

 

When Officials SHOULD Learn From Street Musicians

Image from CBC News

As I watch the local TV news last night, my blood boiled while fighting back tears.

It was a live interactive TV shows from TV One…

Saw bunch of young men singing the famous Abiet G Ade song…with their simple instruments

Anak menjerit-jerit, asap panas membakar

Lahar dan badai menyapu bersih

Ini bukan hukuman, hanya satu isyarat

Bahwa kita mesti banyak berbenah

Memang, bila kita kaji lebih jauh

Dalam kekalutan, masih banyak tanganYang tega berbuat nista...”

(Smoke rising it’s burning, children crying

Lava and storms swipe away

This is only one sign, not punishment

We must make amends

Yes, when we look closer…

In confusions, there are plenty of dirty hands…)

These bunch of young people turned out to be street singers who plays on board of Jakarta trains. Their community had decided to spend 4 days hopping in and out of trains singing for their fellows Indonesians brothers and sisters who’s been hit by tsunami in Mentawai and Mount Merapi eruptions.

In a mere 4 days…these kids managed to collected 8,980,000 Rupiah (20 thousands shorts of 9 million! That’s nearly a thousand bucks!). Bunch of dirty-wrinkled-small changes neatly stacked together. Almost 9 million, people! Amazing would be an understatement for their acts among many others groups who tried so hard to help out.

They came to where the TV station has their live shows every night and while waiting what did they do? Sing! More money collected.  Them…street singers…who doesn’t even make that much money still have the hearts to share, the morality to thinks of others less fortunate. They think of their fellow Indonesians who had lost their house, their wives, their husbands, their childrens, their brothers, their sisters, their parents…

Their simple act shows that sometimes it is us the regular people who still have the hearts and soul!

While our beloved ‘representatives’ sneaked out of Jakarta for a visit to Italy, the West Sumatran Governor went to Germany while people in Mentawai barely have food to eat after tsunami wiped their villages, the Boyolali officials went to Bali while Mount Merapi is spewing hot ashes killing more. It is heartwarming yet ironic at the same time to see these bunch of young barely-educated-people still cares and singing their heart out just so they can do something to help.

Shame!

Our representatives need to learn some humility from these kids. Imagine what those money they blew for these so-called ‘business trips’ can do to help out the victims? Yes, it’s been planned and budgeted but I’m sure the number one person in Indonesia could lay down his fist and put a stop and allocate the budgets for a much more needed expense…to rebuild the lives of so many affected by these twin disasters! Did he put a halt to these nonsense? No!

It is truly heartbreaking and making me cursing these so called ‘peoples representative’ who clearly represent no one but their own big fat ego and selfishness!

Shame on you oh dear ‘peoples representatives’! Shame on you!

PS: As I’m writing this the volcanic ashes/dust – or whatever you calls it – had reached Puncak (about 2 hours away from Jakarta). Please keep Indonesia in your prayers.

Pray & Act For Indonesia

Pray for Indonesia

In-case you missed the news…my beloved country has been hit by strings of disasters in such a short time.

We have flood and landslide in Wasior, a small village tucked in West of Papua on October 4th, 2010. Over 100 people died, the landslide wiped out almost the entire place. Deforestation seems to be the main caused but our Indonesian government strongly opposed the claimed.

Then a 7.2 magnitude earthquake rocked and caused a huge 7 meters waves of Tsunami wiping nearly all of Mentawai islands in western coast of Sumatra last Monday, October 25, 2010. Currently more than 400 people are still missing with death toll creeping around 400 lives.

Just a day later – the much monitored active volcanic mountain of Merapi in Central Java erupted on October 26, 2010. People has been evacuating but more eruptions are excepted according to experts. 29 people has been killed so far.

It’s been a really rough times for this country and my heart breaks wishing there’s more I can do. So many lives lost, so many children lost their parents, so many parents lost their children, lost everything they had. Their lives has been torned. They are in desperate need of helps, so I am asking you my friends to say some prayers – accordingly to your personal beliefs – or to monetarily do small donations. Every single cents counts in rebuilding these people’s lives.

You can do so online through Mercy Indonesia foundation who focuses on helping children, orphans. If you are in Jakarta, you can drop off much needed common items such as clean water, food, etc to Mommies Daily office.’

Kulihat ibu pertiwi sedang bersusah hati

Airmatanya berlinang mas intan yang kau kenang

Hutan gunung sawah lautan, simpanan kekayaan

Kini Ibu sedang lara… merintih dan berdoa…”

(I see Mother Earth… she’s troubled. Her tears rolling down, thinking of gold and diamonds. Forests, mountains, rice paddies, and the ocean… our treasures. Now Mother Earth is sad… weeping and praying…)