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Marital Culture Shock

Mix Marriage
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This is a more serious spin on my suppose-to-be-entertaining-list of things you’ll face after you married your foreigner husband. Marriages between two Indonesians with different tribes can cause problems, so a marriage with a foreigner means you’ll need bigger efforts to bridge the cultural differences, we did came from a totally different worlds so to speak. Although my past of living around expatriates did help to understand the western cultures, it doesn’t mean that it’s a smooth sailing for me – or for my husband. He will talk about it more so stay tuned. Marriage life means both parties needs to synchronize their differences and the process actually started before we got our marriage certificates. But surely dating and actually .....

I Used To Dream of Pink Bows

Mommyhood
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For as long as I remember…even long before I met DH, I always dream of pink bows…I always wanted a baby girl. Since the first time that drug store bought pregnancy test shows positive sign, well actually since before we even got married …we always know we wanted a baby girl. Being the only girl in my family and since he already have two amazing boys…we always dream for that baby girl. We even had a name picked out for her…a really beautiful name. From day one we referred to our unborn child as a she. I secretly whispered to her when I lay down in bed at night picturing her beautiful pink coming home outfit, thinking of the cute .....

Kartini Today, Are Those Shackles Off?

Indonesia
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A little history lesson from Indonesia, Kartini or sometimes known as Raden Ajeng Kartini, was a prominent Javanese and an Indonesian national heroine. Kartini is known as a pioneer in the area of women’s rights for native Indonesians. For her roles in women’s rights Indonesian government declared April 21st as Kartini Day in 1964. In many ways she was a woman before her times. She wanted women to have the freedom to learn and study. Kartini’s concerns were not just in the area of the emancipation of women, but also the problems of her society. Kartini saw that the struggle for women to obtain their freedom, autonomy and legal equality was just part of a wider movement. She detests polygamy .....

Mijn Oma

Musings
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The last time I went to Makassar was in 2007, I went to visit my Oma (that’s how I calls our Grandmas in the family) there with my Mom and brother. Lil’ A was a baby. We wanted to make sure my Oma got to see her first great grandson since at the time we were all still living in Dothan, Alabama. This time when I walked into the nursing home, they were having their daily sermon (the place is run by a church) and although I told them we can wait, someone did go in to get her. From the distance, I could not believe my eyes…that can’t be my Oma! She looks so frail and someone had to .....

Turning The Big 3-0

Musings
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“Do you feel any difference?” asked DH on the morning of my birthday over the phone. “No, not really.” I replied “Should I be?” he just laughed to my respond. So how do I really feel inside about turning 30? To be completely honest I think it’s a mixture of both anxiousness and calmness. Weird, I know! Blame that on me being a Pisces! The anxious part already swept me since last month actually. When I went out with my girlfriend I felt like an old lady who got too bored by nightlife actions and the differences between an almost-28-years-old-young-single girl and a housewife/mother-soon-to-be-30 really stood out. Don’t get me wrong, we are still best friends but there are obvious .....

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